Body Image Healing
Your body is yours to enjoy. It's never too late to heal, and it's always worth it!
It's time to end the war with your body and feel comfortable in your own skin without spending years in therapy or making your life pitifully small to avoid all ‘triggers’.
Recovery can be hard when you try to do it by yourself.
That's where I come in. Through working with me, you'll get support to replace the filter of judgment you’ve been seeing yourself through with a lens of love. In this way, you can start seeing yourself as you truly are – a unique and beautiful being with a valuable contribution to offer the world.
IS THIS YOU?
😩 You constantly judge how you look, and you rarely, if ever, feel like your body looks ‘good enough’.
😩 You worry a lot about what other people think of your appearance and crave constant validation. Or you’re simply resigned to feeling ugly.
😩 You spend a lot of time, energy, and money (if/when you have it) on trying to improve and/or maintain your appearance.
😩 You feel too insecure about your body to enjoy dating, romance, or intimacy.
😩 You engage in obsessive behaviours, including weighing yourself, mirror checking, over-exercising, taking selfies, taking hours to get ready, disordered eating etc.
😩 You worry about the impact of ageing on your appearance.
😩 You keep your life small to avoid the pain of being criticised or rejected.
If so, you’ve come to the right place! 😊
You see, I understand exactly how you feel and what you’re going through. Because that was me too.
MY STORY OF BODY IMAGE SUFFERING AND HEALING
I struggled with body image for most of my life.
I spent around 30 years of my life judging my appearance harshly. 😩
I was highly critical of the way I looked and monitored my weight obsessively.
No matter what I did, I always had the sense that I wasn't 'there' yet.
The whole problem weighed me down. It felt like it was the depressing soundtrack to my life, and something I’d never escape from.
I tried so hard to make my body look attractive, and wasted a lot of time, energy and money in the process.
All I wanted was to feel beautiful, and therefore loveable, but the end goal always seemed to elude me.
I struggled with disordered eating.
One of the worst things about it was that it completely messed up my relationship with food and led to decades of all kinds of disordered eating.
And I didn’t even realise that it was my harsh judgment of my body that was the root cause of my difficulties with eating.
I just thought I was greedy and had to work hard to control myself.
I thought I'd never recover.
My obsession with my looks affected every area of my life, and I often felt insecure and depressed as a result.
There were even times when I thought that death would be the only way out of this suffering.
Because I’d struggled so long and had tried and failed to recover so many times, I thought that this problem was a part of my identity, and something I’d never be free from.
At the age of 40, I fully recovered!
But I’m happy to say that I was totally wrong about that – it’s a very good thing to be wrong sometimes!
And a few years ago I fully healed in this area. I now hardly ever think about what I look like, let alone worry about it! And I’ve never been happier. 🤩🎉
My eating problems are a thing of the past.
These days my relationship with food is easy, natural and problem-free, just as it was when I was a little girl before any dysfunction set in.
And without the preoccupation with my looks and food draining my energy, I now have so much more time to devote to enjoying life, trying out new things and treasuring being with people I love.
I now feel secure in the way I look, not because I conform to all the bogus ‘beauty’ standards that get shoved down our throats throughout our lives, but because I realise, deep down, that real beauty can never be reduced to any metric. It is simply what we see when we observe the world through the lens of love.
I believe everyone can recover.
Having healed in this area myself, I'm now passionate about sharing my insights with others so they can enjoy the freedom I do now.
Freedom is your birthright.
It doesn’t matter how long you’ve struggled with these problems, or how severely they've affected you, please rest assured that you can get better.
You can wake up from the nightmare, and go on to live a fulfilling, enjoyable life.
HAVE YOU BEEN STRUGGLING TO HEAL BY YOURSELF? 😩
If you're ready to end the war with your body, but have been struggling to change by yourself, I'm here to help.
Having a non-judgmental space to explore your thoughts and feelings, as well as guidance and encouragement from someone who's been where you are, but has made it to the other side, can get you where you want to go faster and easier than if you just keep trying to figure it all out by yourself.
You don't have to heal alone, and I don't think we're meant to.
HAVE YOU FOUND TRADITIONAL THERAPY DIDN'T MAKE MUCH DIFFERENCE? 🥺
While I found traditional therapy helpful in many ways, I came out of it still feeling like I was trapped - trapped in a body which made me feel ugly, unattractive and miserable. I was stuck in the belief that my body was undesirable and I was therefore worth less than people with 'better' bodies. This left me feeling inferior, inadequate and depressed.
But if I tried to change my appearance, that gave me an eating disorder and made my life pitifully small - I just became obsessed with food, exercise and routines/treatments to 'improve' the way I looked. It was a very sad, desperate little existence.
Traditional therapy ultimately didn't change how I felt about my body.
WHAT ACTUALLY HELPED ME 🙌
Fortunately, I eventually found something that did, and that's what I now share with people through my work.
What ultimately freed me from the chains of body image hell was twofold:
- A radical questioning of all my beliefs about what makes someone beautiful, attractive, desirable and valuable that liberated me from a lifetime of cultural conditioning. Traditional therapy often just accepts this brainwashing about beauty as 'a fact of life' which you need to find a way to cope with. My perspective is much more radical and therefore much more freeing than that(!); and
- A clearer understanding of the inside-out nature of life (i.e. that my feelings reflect my thinking rather than events or circumstances) and that there is so much more to me than my habitual thoughts. That transformed not only my experience of my body, but my experience of life as a whole, and has been the most wonderful, profound and glorious epiphany - exceeding any hopes I ever could have had about how beautiful life can be!
LET ME HELP YOU HEAL YOUR BODY IMAGE. 🫶
So, if you’re ready to…
🥰 learn how to appreciate your own unique true natural beauty;
🥰 free yourself from the burden of worrying about what you look like, especially as you get older;
🥰 feel more secure in your own sense of unconditional self-worth;
🥰 have the confidence to go on dates or enjoy your relationship with your current partner more fully;
🥰 enjoy the sensual and sexual pleasures your body has to offer you, as it is right now;
🥰 spend your money on useful/fun things rather than on risky/costly attempts to change your body;
🥰 start thriving instead of just surviving;
... then I'm here to help!
TWO WAYS I CAN HELP YOU HEAL YOUR BODY IMAGE
- I've produced lots of FREE resources to help people who are struggling with body image. Please check them out if you'd like to get on the road to recovery.
- If my perspective resonates with you and you're ready to go deeper, check out From Judgement To Joy, my signature Body Image Healing One-To-One Coaching Programme, designed to transform your experience of your body, so you can finally make peace with your appearance and get on with enjoying your one and precious life.
ANY QUESTIONS? 🙋🙋🏽♀️
Please don't hesitate to contact me at maria@mariamorgan.info if you have any questions about the Body Image Healing support I provide or my other offerings.
I'd be delighted to be your coach and companion on your journey to a more peaceful, joyful and fulfilling life. 🥰
Lots of love,
Maria
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