Let me help you stop judging your appearance,
so you can enjoy your life to the full.

Hello and welcome to my website!

Are you…

  • constantly judging how you look?
  • worrying about what other people think of your appearance?
  • rarely, if ever, feeling like your body measures up?
  • spending a lot of time, energy and money on trying to improve and/or maintain your appearance?
  • feeling too insecure about your body to enjoy dating, romance or intimacy?
  • fed up with feeling unattractive and unworthy of love?

If so, you’ve come to the right place!

You see, I understand exactly how you feel and what you’re going through. Because that was me too. I spent 30 years of my life judging my appearance harshly. I was highly critical of the way I looked and monitored my weight obsessively. No matter what I did, I always had the sense that I wasn't 'there' yet.

The whole problem weighed me down. It felt like it was the depressing soundtrack to my life, and something I’d never escape from. I tried so hard to make my body look attractive, and wasted a lot of time, energy and money in the process. All I wanted was to feel beautiful, and therefore loveable, but the end goal always seemed to elude me.

One of the worst things about it was that it completely messed up my relationship with food and led to decades of all kinds of disordered eating. And I didn’t even realise that it was my harsh judgment of my body that was the root cause of my difficulties with eating. I just thought I was greedy and had to work hard to control myself.

My obsession with my looks affected every area of my life, and I often felt insecure and depressed as a result. There were even times when I thought that death would be the only way out of this suffering. Because I’d struggled so long and had tried and failed to recover so many times, I thought that this problem was a part of my identity, and something I’d never be free from.

But I’m happy to say that I was totally wrong about that – it’s a very good thing to be wrong sometimes! – and a few years ago I fully healed in this area. I now hardly ever think about what I look like, let alone worry about it! And I’ve never been happier. My eating problems are a thing of the past. These days my relationship with food is easy, natural and problem-free, just as it was when I was a little girl before any dysfunction set in.

And without the preoccupation with my looks and food draining my energy, I now have so much more time to devote to enjoying life, trying out new things and treasuring being with people I love.

I now feel secure in the way I look, not because I conform to all the bogus ‘beauty’ standards that get shoved down our throats throughout our lives, but because I realise, deep down, that real beauty can never be reduced to any metric. It is simply what we see when we observe the world through the lens of love.

Freedom is your birth right. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve struggled with these problems, or how severely they've affected you, please rest assured that you can get better. You can wake up from the nightmare, and go on to live a fulfilling, enjoyable life.

If you’d like to know more about what helped me recover, and find out how you can too, please take a look around and get started with some of my free resources. I've produced quite a bit, and I'm constantly creating more. I'm passionate about sharing my insights with others so they can enjoy the freedom I do now. And if you'd like some 1:1 support to put this problem behind you once and for all, check out my coaching offer. I'd be delighted to be your guide on your journey to a more peaceful, joyful and fulfilling life.

Lots of love,

Maria ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿงก๐Ÿ’™

How the problem with our appearance starts

The culture in most of the world today gives us the message that the way we look is important, and some ways of looking are better than others. Most of us grow up receiving these messages, either explicitly or implicitly. We may be criticised by people around us for the way we look, or told we should try to change the way we look. Alternatively we may get praised for the way we look.

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How a natural pleasure turns into a coping mechanism

I am happy to say that I have always enjoyed eating! Food is a natural pleasure in life, and one that is available to most of us several times per day. It is one of life's precious gifts. However, for many of us, the joyful aspect of eating, can become tainted. My difficulties with eating started as a child.

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What is beauty?

What is beauty? What is it that makes somebody beautiful? According to the everyday understanding of beauty with regard to human beings, it refers to the appearance of the body, and there are usually similar characteristics.

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You're not greedy

There have been times in my life when my appetite seemed insatiable. I used to say to myself, "I could eat the world!", and that really seemed to sum up the way things were. Whatever I ate, it was never enough.

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Fear of weight gain: the terror that binds us

Iโ€™ve heard that one of many peopleโ€™s greatest fears is public speaking. It even trumps death for a lot of people! Itโ€™s the fear of exposure and ridicule. But I suspect thereโ€™s another contender that would feature pretty highly on many peopleโ€™s list of fears these days: the fear of gaining weight.

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You are not a product

I believe that, in order to enjoy life, we must feel that we have some value to other people. Our human nature is social โ€“ we want to connect with, and feel close to, others.

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You can't believe your eyes

Appearances can be very deceptive. For most of my life, I looked at my body without realising that my vision had been infected by a kind of psychological virus. When it came to my physical form, I had lost the ability to see clearly.

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THE ECSTASY OF BEING ALIVE, AND THE MISLEADING ASSOCIATIONS THAT GET IN THE WAY

Like many people these days, I used to be obsessed with being thin. I put an enormous amount of energy into the endeavour. So much so, that I was willing to suffer greatly to achieve my objective. At times, it even felt like my lifeโ€™s work. Clearly, it was hugely important to me. In fact, itโ€™s hard to overstate its significance. But all this begs the question: why?

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The deception of fear and the healing promise of love

What are you afraid of? Not having enough money for lifeโ€™s necessities like food, shelter and healthcare? Physical pain? The loss of loved ones? A terminal diagnosis? Watching people you love suffer, and not knowing how to help? Violent assault? Rape? Having your freedom taken away? Being taken advantage of? Rejection? Abandonment? Being overlooked? Depression? Feeling helpless to repeat behaviours that harm you and/or other people (addiction)? The damaging effects of climate change? Natural disasters? Loss of control? Cruelty? Injustice? Fascism? Torture?

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YOU CAN TRUST YOUR EMOTIONAL PAIN TO TEACH AND HEAL YOU

โ€œIf the only thing that people learned was not to be afraid of their experience, that alone would change the world." Sydney Banks There is a natural rhythm to our emotional life, and when we respect that, our learning and growth will flow more easily.

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The shame of living in a natural female body

Thin is better than fat. The thinner you are, the better. When you are thin, you are desirable. When you are fat, you are revolting. There may be times in your life when you eat more, and you gain weight. These are terrible times. It is very shameful to have to buy clothes in larger sizes.

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Can you see your beauty?

She looked at the mountain despondently. It wasnโ€™t as big and grand as the mountains in the advertisement. Something about its shape didnโ€™t feel quite right โ€“ it irked her. What a waste of time to have come here.

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FROM JUDGEMENT TO JOY is a one-hour FREE talk to help you break free from shame, obsession and insecurity when it comes to your appearance, so you can start enjoying your body and your life to the full.

In the talk I cover:

  • The two fundamental beliefs underpinning our suffering when we don't like the way we look.
  • How we get sucked into buying into these beliefs through a lifetime of cultural conditioning.
  • The crucial difference between the so-called 'beauty' standards and real beauty.
  • How trauma can make us more susceptible to pressures to look different/'better'.
  • The impact of our beliefs on how we see ourselves, whether we're aware of these beliefs or not.
  • How we heal - willpower and effort don't tend to help us in the long term, so I spoke about what actually helps instead.
  • Three qualities/attitudes that facilitate healing.
  • How our suffering can be an opportunity to learn more about who we are, and have a deeper, more fulfilling experience of life.
  • How we can enjoy the way people look so much more when we replace the filter of judgement with the lens of love.
  • And lots more!
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ANY QUESTIONS, JUST SHOUT!
You can email me at maria@mariamorgan.info or send me a direct message me on Facebook.  

Love,

Maria
๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿงก๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’›

The Dogs of War

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The Unravelling

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JUDGED

  •   25/03/2024 01:59 PM

Restoration

  •   15/03/2024 12:28 PM
THE LENS OF LOVE COMMUNITY image
๐Ÿ’ž«CLICK HERE to join The Lens of Love Community waitlist»๐Ÿ’ž

I know how hard it can be to stop judging the way your body looks, especially in a world which seems to be constantly ramping up the pressure to look ‘perfect’. But I'm here to tell you that it is possible to stop.

It's time to end the war with your body and feel comfortable in your own skin without spending years in therapy or making your life pitifully small to avoid all ‘triggers’.

Recovery can be hard when you try to do it by yourself.

That's where The Lens of Love Community comes in. In this online membership, you will get all the support you need to replace the filter of judgment you’ve been seeing yourself through with a lens of love.  In this way, you can start seeing yourself as you truly are – a unique and beautiful being with a valuable contribution to offer the world.

๐Ÿ’ž«CLICK HERE to join The Lens of Love Community waitlist»๐Ÿ’ž 

๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿงก๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’›

If you often find yourself judging your appearance, I get it. I spent 30 years of my life doing the exact same thing.

Around five years ago, I fully healed in this area, and I can't wait to help you do the same.  So if you're feeling like this๐Ÿ‘‡then The Lens of Love Community is for you.

Is this you?

๐Ÿ˜ฉ You constantly judge how you look, and you rarely, if ever, feel like your body looks ‘good enough’.

๐Ÿ˜ฉ You worry a lot about what other people think of your appearance and crave constant validation. Or you’re simply resigned to feeling ugly.

๐Ÿ˜ฉ You spend a lot of time, energy, and money (if/when you have it) on trying to improve and/or maintain your appearance.

๐Ÿ˜ฉ You feel too insecure about your body to enjoy dating, romance, or intimacy.

๐Ÿ˜ฉ You engage in obsessive behaviours, including weighing yourself, mirror checking, over-exercising, taking selfies, taking hours to get ready, disordered eating etc.

๐Ÿ˜ฉ You worry about the impact of ageing on your appearance.

๐Ÿ˜ฉ You keep your life small to avoid the pain of being criticised or rejected.

๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿงก๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’›

So, if you’re ready to…

๐Ÿฅฐ learn how to appreciate your own unique true natural beauty;

๐Ÿฅฐ free yourself from the burden of worrying about what you look like, especially as you get older;

๐Ÿฅฐ feel more secure in your own sense of unconditional self-worth;

๐Ÿฅฐ have the confidence to go on dates or enjoy your relationship with your current partner more fully;

๐Ÿฅฐ enjoy the sensual and sexual pleasures your body has to offer you, as it is right now;

๐Ÿฅฐ spend your money on useful/fun things rather than on risky/costly attempts to change your body;

๐Ÿฅฐ start thriving instead of just surviving;

๐Ÿ’ž«CLICK HERE to join The Lens of Love Community waitlist»๐Ÿ’ž

๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿงก๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’›

In the Community, you will:

โœ… receive ongoing coaching, in regular live Zoom meetings. (All meetings will be recorded, so you’ll be able to catch up with replays if you’re unable to attend live.)

โœ… have the opportunity to ask questions in regular Facebook lives held in our own private Community Facebook group. (You’ll be able to submit questions in advance and watch replays if you’re not able to attend live.)

โœ… be part of a tight-knit group of like-minded souls who’ll be able to empathise with your struggles and celebrate your progress in a private Facebook group and regular Zoom meetings.

โœ… get encouragement to keep growing and getting out of your comfort zone when you’d otherwise be tempted to give up and go backwards.

๐Ÿ’ž«CLICK HERE to join The Lens of Love Community waitlist»๐Ÿ’ž

๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿงก๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’›

I look forward to supporting you on your journey to freedom and happiness. ๐Ÿ˜Š

And if you have any questions, don’t hesitate to send me an email or a message me on Facebook. I’d love to hear from you.

Maria

๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿงก๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’›

Coaching image
If you're ready to end the war with your body, but have been struggling to change by yourself, I'm here to help.

Having a non-judgmental space to explore your thoughts and feelings, as well as guidance and encouragement from someone who's been where you are, but has made it to the other side, can get you where you want to go faster and easier than if you just keep trying to figure it all out by yourself.

You don't have to heal alone, and I don't think we're meant to.

I've found it invaluable to have support along my healing journey, and I'm now passionate about supporting people who are still struggling.

If that's you, let's work together to put this body image problem behind you, so you can get on with enjoying your one and precious life.

Our time on earth is finite, and we have to make the most of it.

Please don't postpone your happiness and freedom indefinitely.

๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿงก๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’›


FREE DISCOVERY CALL

Get in touch now to arrange a FREE, no-obligation discovery call to see if we're a good fit to work together.  

You can either email me at maria@mariamorgan.info or send me a direct message on Facebook.

I will reply within 48 hours (usually sooner) to schedule a mutually convenient time for a chat on Zoom.

I allow up to 80 minutes for this introductory session.

This session will be an opportunity for you to talk about what you're struggling with, and to ask any questions about the coaching package I offer.

After this initial conversation, the ball will be in your court, and it will be up to you to decide whether you want to invest in coaching with me.

You can read testimonials of other people I've already helped here.

๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿงก๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’›


12-SESSION COACHING PACKAGE 

I offer a 12-session coaching package to support you on your journey to freedom from body image/eating issues.  

I allow up to 80 minutes for each 1:1 coaching session.

All sessions will be held on Zoom.

These sessions can be scheduled during my working hours between 9am - 2.30pm U.K. time (BST/GMT) Mondays to Thursdays and
9am -1.30pm BST/GMT on Fridays, subject to availability, during the school term.

If you are unavailable during these times, please get in touch to see whether we can find a time that works - I take up to one client at a time outside these hours.

You can check the time in your time zone here: https://www.worldtimebuddy.com

The cost of the 12-session package is £1000 which needs to be paid for upfront via bank transfer, or Stripe if you don't live in U.K.

Please note that this package does not limit you to 12 sessions, and you will be free to book further sessions when the package comes to an end if you choose.

We all heal at a different pace, are in different financial circumstances and require different types and levels of support at different points in our lives. There is no one size fits all.

Please don't hesitate to email me at maria@mariamorgan.info or send me a direct message on Facebook if coaching is of interest to you.

I look forward to hearing from you! ๐Ÿฅฐ

๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿงก๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’›
If you'd like to arrange a FREE introductory chat to discuss coaching, or if you have any feedback on what you find here, I'd love to hear from you.  

Please feel to email me: maria@mariamorgan.info

Or send me a private message on Facebook 









FREE COURSE image
๐Ÿ’ž«CLICK HERE to access the free course, Making Peace With Your Appearance»๐Ÿ’ž

This free course is designed to give you a strong foundation for healing your body image, so you can stop judging your appearance and get on with enjoying your life to the full.

It is based on my 34-page eBook, Making peace with your appearance: the top ten misunderstandings that get in the way of your recovery, which sets out what helped me recover after around 30 years of struggle.

When you sign up, you'll be emailed a copy of the 34-page eBook and the ten companion videos straight away.

The videos are designed to reinforce the points in the eBook to consolidate your learning.

If you would like to ask questions or share your experience as you go through the course, you are welcome to do so on Facebook - I provide instructions in the course emails as to where you can do this. I will do my best to respond to all your questions there. ๐Ÿ˜Š

Even though I originally recorded the videos as part of a Facebook Live series, you do not need to be on Facebook to access them.

You will have lifetime access to the course content.

๐Ÿ’ž«CLICK HERE to access the free course, Making Peace With Your Appearance»๐Ÿ’ž