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Your body is yours to enjoy. It's never too late to heal, and it's always worth it!
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The irresistible temptation of 'the body beautiful'
I was sucked in by the lure of 'the body beautiful' for most of my life. But, no longer! I now know deep within my bones where happiness truly comes from. Everyone is free to discover this for themselves and enjoy the freedom that comes with this merciful insight.
Have you been duped into believing lies because they were stated with conviction? Not all the so-called 'facts' you may have heard about attractiveness are true.
People often speak with great confidence about what is attractive and what isn't, as if they are referring to objective truths. Don't be taken in!
5 reasons why you're underestimating your attractiveness and how to stop.
Your attractiveness can't be reduced to your body's conformity with the so-called 'beauty' standards. And your mind's negative assessment of your appearance isn't as reliable as it seems. Realising the truth of these facts can free you from a lot of insecurity, so you can get on with enjoying intimacy.
Are you a compliment junkie? 4 reasons why other people's praise of your looks won't make you truly happy and how you can find real happiness instead.
When you feel insecure about your body, craving compliments about your appearance can be like an addiction. As you access a more reliable source of wellbeing, the compulsive urge to get external validation will fade.
Are you objectifying yourself? Healing requires you get back to being the subject of your life.
When we objectify ourselves, we forsake our own hopes, dreams, interests and ambitions to try to satisfy the desires of other people. We do this out of the fear that if we don't, we will be cast aside by the world. But the price we pay - betrayal of who we truly are - is too high.
How my relationship with my appearance changed – the process that took me from suffering to freedom
My experience of healing in the area of body image has not been what I expected. It has been much more wonderful than I could ever have imagined! Here I set out the key changes in perspective that brought about this uplifting shift in my consciousness, and therefore my experience of my body and life in general.
Are you open to change? What if you're not? And how do people really change anyway?
Even though most of us would like our suffering to be magically taken away from us, we're not actually open to the kind of profound change which would make that possible. But the good news is that can change! If you're interested in how people really change, and what helps increase readiness for change, read on!
Dreaded photos: how to handle seeing photos of yourself you hate.
If seeing a 'terrible' photo of yourself triggers a spiral of obsessive, desperate thinking, please know that you're not alone. However, the good news is that a shift in perspective can take the sting out of this experience and put it back into a healthy perspective.
You don't have to wait for the world to ditch today's so-called 'beauty' standards in order to heal: you can be the change you want to see instead.
We have more power than we often realise. When you change, you change the world.
I wore a dress! (How I had fun breaking my clothes 'rules'.)
Do you spend ages getting ready to go out? Do you worry a lot about what other people think of the way you look? I did for most of my life. But I'm happy to say I've put all that stress and angst behind me now. Getting dressed is easier when you remember that your body isn't an ornament!
Makeup: celebration or prison?
Many people all over the world take pleasure in adorning their bodies with colour. It can be a wonderful celebration of the beauty of life. But for many, makeup can turn into a mask to hide their perceived inadequacy.