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Body image / Appearance / Beauty / Attractiveness

1. How the problem with our appearance starts
2. The shame of living in a natural female body
3. My stomach was never meant to be flat. (The importance of challenging our habit of criticising our natural bodies)
4. What is beauty? (Questioning what we think we know can be the gateway to healing.)
5. No one looks any better or worse than you. (Challenging the notion of an appearance hierarchy)
6. You can't believe your eyes. (How our sight becomes distorted by judgement.)
7. Makeup: celebration or prison?
8. I wore a dress! (How I had fun breaking my clothes 'rules')
9. You are not a product. (Why we need to stop treating our bodies like commodities.)
10. For people who get upset when they see themselves in a photo or in the mirror...
11. Do you feel insecure about your attractiveness because you don't think you look feminine or masculine enough? Here's why you don't have to.
12. Grieving the right thing: why you don't need to accept the 'fact' you're ugly or unattractive.
13. Dreaded photos: how to handle seeing photos of yourself you hate.
14. Are you a compliment junkie? 4 reasons why other people's praise of your looks won't make you truly happy and how you can find real happiness instead.
15. 5 reasons why you're underestimating your attractiveness and how to stop.
16. Have you been duped into believing lies because they were stated with conviction? Not all the so-called 'facts' you may have heard about attractiveness are true.
17. The irresistible temptation of 'the body beautiful'

Disordered eating / Weight worries

1. How a natural pleasure turns into a coping mechanism: my history of disordered eating
2. Fear of weight gain: the terror that binds us, and how we can free ourselves from its grip.
3. You're not greedy. What's really going on when we find ourselves overeating

Recovery / Healing

1. How my relationship with my appearance changed – the process that took me from suffering to freedom
2. Are you open to change? What if you're not? And how do people really change anyway?
3. You don't have to wait for the world to ditch today's so-called 'beauty' standards in order to heal: you can be the change you want to see instead.
4. Are you objectifying yourself? Healing requires you get back to being the subject of your life.
5. You can trust your emotional pain to teach and heal you. (The importance of embracing all our emotions)
6. The deception of fear and the healing promise of love. (Why you're not afraid of what you think you are, and how love dissolves fear.)
7. The ecstasy of being alive, and the misleading associations that get in the way: why you don't need to achieve 'the body beautiful' to be happy.
8. What's the role of anger in healing?
9. We look for evidence of our value in the wrong place.  And life feels a lot less scary when we look in the right place.
10. Low moods are easier without body worries.
11. The price of shame
12. The places Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) might not reach: how exploring your spiritual nature can help you heal your body image woes.
13. Love brings out the best in us.
14. Is healing complicated?
15. Learning to see the hurt behind hurtful behaviours can support our healing.